Before I started writing this blog I was lucky to be part of a pretty special book club made up of 5 women. When I say I was “lucky” what I mean is that I wasn’t sure if I was worthy to be part of this group.
My close friend Michele asked me to join, and because we read a lot of the same books and I could literally hang on her every word when she described her thoughts, I was interested.
I shared with Michele my “unworthy” feelings due to the fact that I knew these women were accomplished. They were out advocating for women’s rights and social change when I was still in High School making out behind the bleachers at football games. Still, Michele encouraged me to join and not worry about it. So I did.
Every discussion we had was an education for me. Not just about the books we read, but how I fit in, what I had to say, how my upbringing and the decisions I’ve made in my life bring something totally different to the table than someone else. And you know what? I loved it!
So now I’m taking it a step further and sharing my pick with you.
You know it’s a good book when you can’t wait to tell someone else about it. Right?
Don and I were in Florida on a 4 hour drive across Alligator Alley when I told him every single detail I had read up until that point.
When Mira was 28 years old she found out she was pregnant. When she was 5 months along test results and an ultrasound revealed that her child would have multiple birth defects and not be able to survive outside of the womb. She and her boyfriend Andy were faced with making a decision that would affect the rest of their lives. Mira chose to show us how she came about making that decision through flashbacks of her childhood.
For me, so much of what I loved about this book were the open non judgemental conversations Mira had with her parents.
“Life ain’t fair, I think to myself. Never has been, and never will be. Those three words became the mantra Mom and Dad poured into our heads since before we could even stand on our own fat baby legs. Life wasn’t fair. It was a good thing to be reminded of, and it was even better to be warned, so you could be ready for whatever hit you when you least expected it. Life ain’t fair. I had got it back then, but back then I didn’t realize that my parents weren’t always referring to me and my problems when they said it.”
A text with Mira
While I’m reading the book in a Florida hotel room I get a group text from Mira. She’s letting us know that she and Andy will be coming to the “welcome home” shower we are hosting for sweet newborn baby Finn on the island.
I told her I could not put down Poor Your Soul and was proud to be reading it on International Women’s Day.
She tells me to tell everyone I know to buy it and sends out a picture of her dad and what she says are ” her two best legacies.”
She makes sure to tell me it has a happy ending and she’ll sign my copy when I see her.
She doesn’t realize that the book will be passed along already.
Tear stained pages
When I finish the last page I’m lying face down, in a beach chair, crying like a baby. Our boys have joined us for a few days and my oldest Donnie looks over and say’s “Uh oh what’s wrong?”
I tell them both why I feel so strongly about this book. We all know that unexpected circumstances happen, and that stress and messy feelings are hard to navigate through, but communication is key in every situation and that there is light at the end of the tunnel- you might just have to work hard to find it.
“Individually, we will have trouble. But when we come together, we are strong. We press on.”- Dr.Philip Ptacin